The Art of Cunnilingus Part 3

The G-Spot

The g-spot is the woman's second extremely sensitive spot. "Discovered," much like Columbus and the "New World", by Ernest Grafenberg, the g-spot is a small mound of tissue about the size of a penny or nickel on the on the frontal wall of the vagina (two inches inside, on the vaginal wall facing her navel). The g-spot is a special collection of nerve endings, most likely developed through history (or by God, depending who you ask) as a means of "rewarding" sexual acts. The g-spot also releases hormones similar to those released by a man's prostate gland.

When your lover is excited, manipulation of the g-spot is usually the best way to bring her to orgasm. A g-spot orgasm is different from a clitoral one. Most women report it as being a wave-like sensation. In fact, g-spot orgasms involve a unique "pushing-out," in which the muscles of the vagina contract in such a way that a pressure gradient is built up so sperm can fire farther inside. With a g-spot orgasm, women usually have an actual ejaculation. Some women are afraid that they have peed, but it is only a natural result of g-spot stimulation.

Rules to Remember to Become an "Expert" Lover

Don't start out too fast - not only is it unnatural for the woman (she won't be fully ready, mentally and secretion- wise), but is not part of a wonderful experience to plunge right into serious, heavy-duty lovemaking. Less is always better, because too much can be a serious Turnoff.

All women are NOT the same. Treat each one as a totally separate entity - start over from scratch with each lover.

Keep an open dialogue. This is very, very important, because there is no other way (short of empathy and telepathy) to be sure everything is just right. An effective lover knows and understands his partner's needs and wants.

The clitoris is not a magic bump. It is necessary to stimulate the clitoris for most women to achieve a full, mind-blowing orgasm, but do not just go after the clitoris like some sort of predator - it is only special when other things are included in the process.

The G-spot is not a magic spot. Read the above, and play with the clitoris, too.

Keep your nails trimmed! Calluses hurt, hangnails are excruciating, and a jagged edge can ruin the process forever. Especially with the clitoris, which is covered up 24/7 to protect it from abuse. It is always wet, and anyone who has taken a bath knows that wet skin is easy to cut. Same thing with a pot roast - cook the meat in its juices long enough, and its soft and delicious. If you don't, it's stringy, dry, and hard. SO BE CAREFUL!

A little noise on your part helps your partner feel more fully attached. Many women can feel lonely during cunninlingus - noise can help remove any fears, as well as heightening the sexual interaction between you.

The tongue works best with clitoris, and the fingers with the g-spot

Try using objects and lotions during sexual exchanges. Lubrication can heighten the stimulation of any touch.

Ice works wonders. Take the ice cube into your mouth (to melt it some so it doesn't attach itself to her). You can try pressing it against her clitoris, labia, and vaginal openings, or you can just chill your tongue and fingers to provide a different sensation. If she is comfortable with it, insert the ice cube inside of her.

Peppermint type sensations are usually incredible. Try it with an altoid (cough drops work well too), or even get one of those thick, 12 inch candy canes during Christmas time (be careful that there are no sharp edges). This can be something most women haven't had the pleasure of enjoying. When using these items, try blowing on whatever parts have been stimulated by the peppermint - this can feel cool and refreshing.

If your partner has just had a mind-blowing clitoral or g-spot orgasm, that area will most likely be tender and overly sensitive. Because most women are multi-orgasmic, try switching between g-spot and clitoral orgasms. . .they will thank you for it.