Right Location, Right People

Men put an enormous amount of money and time into the things that matter to them: choosing the right car, working out, busting their ass at their jobs, making financial plans, and calculating the best methods of acquiring and maintaining a better home.

Men are planners, fixers, thoughtful types.

It's astonishing, then, that most men leave their romantic life almost entirely to chance. They stumble into parties or bars, with the idea of meeting "someone." They rely on ill-informed acquaintances to fix them up. Or they wing it with a crappy come-on line on the rare occasion that a hottie lands in front of them at the grocery checkout.

Here's a thought: put your natural penchant for organization, planning and fixing into meeting great matches! Not only is it possible, it really is logical and necessary.

WHO:

Start with a very thoughtful profile of exactly the kind of person you want to meet. A vague description like "cute, funny, sexy and nice" is not going to cut it. Be exact and specific. Pretend you are being granted a wish, but if you are not precise enough in your description, you don't know what you're going to get. List what you want: exact level of education, type of job, income level, values about people and family, hobbies, activities, pets, smoking or drinking habits, kind of friends she has, kinds of jokes she'd find funny, where she likes to go and what she likes to do. Is she intense or laid back? Passionate or passive? Smart? Serious? Delightfully ditzy? Really spend some time and consider what you'd find to be your favorite characteristics in people you love.

WHERE:

Now, consider where you'd meet such a person. Obvious things, like the sporty chick at the health club or the party girl at the nightclub, well, again, that's not specific enough. You want a fit woman, fine. Check out the health club, but hone in on specifics there. You can tell a lot about her by her exact choice of gym activities. For instance, look for her in a yoga class if you want a self-aware, sophisticated and likely calm/easygoing woman (not to mention lithe and limber!); check out Pilates or spinning for a more assertive, driven woman who grooves on strength and accomplishment. Also, if you've chosen the health club approach, make the most of your own workouts by adding a daily dose of GenF20 HGH, the Human Growth Hormone releaser than helps you build muscle and shed pounds. For the best shirtless look, there's a terrific product on the market now that gives you that body-builder smooth skin and far reduced body hair growth: Ultra Hair Away.

Instead of random clubbing, attend specific events at venues that match your ideal woman. Jazz and single-malt scotch night at a sophisticated spot will yield an entirely different crowd than retro rock at a dance club; scour your local listings for art openings, book signings, fun runs, local-interest group dinners or cocktail events, concerts, fundraisers, university music mixers or theme events like Harley-Davidson night at the museum. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities, too: help out as a tutor or mentor at an elementary school or consider coaching a kids' sport to meet other childless volunteers or those always-intriguing single moms. Offer to pitch in at church or charity events. There's nothing like rolling your sleeves up and working shoulder-to-shoulder with someone for forging a friendship or more.

For each event, consider what type of person you'd expect to see there, and how that matches up with your wish list. And just to see how accurate you are in your assessment of "what kind of person goes there," attend some of these things. You might be surprised at what you find.

HOW:

Ok, you've pinpointed the person and the place. Now what? Again, plan ahead! Imagine the kinds of things you might say or talk about. When in doubt, ask questions instead of trying to impress by talking about yourself. It's best if you just let your natural curiosity lead: Ask where she's from or how she found out about the event/place. Show an interest in what she is about. Ask her what she thinks of something, whether it's the health club's new late-night policy or the featured author's comb-over. Think about clever references you can make, comparing this event or place to other things in popular culture or literature.

Of course, you should be prepared to put your best foot forward. The hot trend in mingling right now is pheromones -- the human-extracted scent that speaks silently to members of the opposite sex and scent-tags you as an attractive, interesting person. Men are reporting great results with Nexus Pheromones which you use in its concentrated form just like a cologne.

FINAL NOTE:

Just get out there! Nothing happens until you take the first step. And remember, the woman you meet today may not be your next great thing, but she could have a friend who is!