Giving a Good Massage Part 3

Introduction

This guide will teach you how to give a body-melting, arousing erotic massage to your partner which will magnify her as well as your orgasm. It begins by answering simple questions such as "What erotic massage is" and "Why perform erotic massage?" to prepare the reader for the right mindset. It guides the reader for mental and physical preparation for the massage such as creating the right environment, acquiring and using the right creams and lotions as well as mastering the actual techniques and styles to give an excellent massage. Though erotic massage could be given by both men and women, this guide will concentrate on teaching men how to ignite love and passion in their partners through sensual erotic massage.

What is erotic massage?

Erotic massage is a special type of massage focused on stimulating your partner's genitalia, rather then just the back or feet (which is what most men consider "erotic massage"). It is a form of foreplay, which if performed correctly, will produce multiple exploding orgasms in your partner as well as yourself. Erotic massage is a way to relax and communicate with your partner that improves your libido, orgasms and the overall style of life. Erotic massage starts out as a regular massage and slowly turns into a sexual stimulation, arousing your partner and you.

Why erotic massage?

It is often said that the most important sex organ is the brain, since it is responsible for processing and interpreting all of those delightful sensory inputs. For size, though, the skin wins hands down as the largest sex organ. It completely covers the body with nerve endings, providing stimulating possibilities in all sorts of interesting places. Being touched is one of the most important things in our lives. Studies have shown that being deprived of touch can lead to stress and mental instability. We need to be touched, and erotic massage can be a very pleasant way to become intimate with someone.

Psychological studies have revealed a high degree of correlation between a male's self esteem (perception of himself) and his sexual life. Men who tend to have a low self esteem are usually dissatisfied with their sexual life due to being incapable of arousing and pleasing their partners, as well as not being pleased themselves. Certainly self esteem depends upon a lot of other psychological factors (such as social status, amount of income, etc.), though the quality of sexual life remains one of the top reasons. Basically what the studies have shown is that the quality of a male's sexual life plays a major role in his every day life by affecting his self esteem. Erotic massage offers a very easy, natural and effective solution to this problem. It improves the quality of sex for both partners by providing very arousing and passionate foreplay. However it must be performed correctly, within the proper mental and physical setting as well as using the right lubricants.

Setting

Mental - Mindset

In order to learn and master the art of sexual massage, both partners need to be in the right mindset. Though sexual massage is an incredible tool for seduction, many women would be turned off when a man offers her a massage. This occurs because the woman thinks that the man has no idea how to actually give a massage and is only using it as an excuse to get her naked and get his hands all over her. To avoid this problem, first learn how to give an outstanding massage, which is what this guide will teach you. Don't rush or pressure too much - just let the pace develop itself. However, just having the right skills does not take you all the way. If you really want to understand and master sexual massage, you need to be in the right mindset, which might require changing your perspective about massage.

Most men who have sexual partners think of massage as an extra, unnecessary step to get to sex. Naturally, they prefer getting sex without doing any work. Since the end result is the same, why do more? This type of thinking creates a barrier that keeps a lot of men from ever mastering sexual massage. In order to overcome this barrier, the man needs to realize he is not performing a massage as a favor for his partner. Instead a massage should be thought of as a great method of foreplay, that will benefit both parties by improving the quality of their sex. If performed correctly, both the receiver and the giver of the massage get very aroused and passionate during the massage which leads to more and better orgasms. Thus a massage should not be thought of as a chore or a punishment, but a way to improve both your and your partner's sexual lives. If you do start thinking of massage in positive terms, the sky is your limit when it comes to getting a great orgasm. If you have the right mindset, but few or no massage giving skills, don't worry - this guide will teach you how to give sexual massage and how to do it right.

So, just to summarize - proper mindset is probably the most important aspect of a sexual massage. Lack of skills is a much smaller problem than being in the wrong mindset, which can make the whole experience dry and negative. Both partners need to go into it knowing that they are doing it for themselves - to please one another in a new and exciting way. The bottom line is that sexual massage benefits both you and your partner, and should be performed on your own free will (i.e. not be forced like it typically is).

Physical - Atmosphere

Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your erotic massage shows that you care about your partner and value pleasure. Start by turning off all communication devices such as your cell phones and pagers. Make sure you are not under any time pressure. Illuminate the room with either candles or soft indirect lamps, burn incense, and turn up the heat to where one would be comfortable lying down naked. Ideally, setup a full body massage table and cover it with a blanket and place a clean sheet over this blanket. Keep your lubricants, oils, and gloves (if needed or desired) within easy reach. You can let the sides of the blanket and sheet drape over the sides of the table so that they may be brought up to cover the receiving partner after the massage is finished. Pieces of fur (can be fake) or feathers can be used for additional sensual tantalization such as light tickling, and an eye pillow or blindfold can be helpful in blocking out any unwanted light for your partner. Keep two containers of ice water around for yourself and your partner to not get overheated. After the set has been setup, it's a good idea to play a CD or tape of your and partner's favorite music to increase the level of relaxation. Light music such as sounds of the ocean, or a soft acoustic guitar usually works best, though the preference is really up to you. Some people are more comfortable with a pillow or rolled bath towel underneath their knees and/or head (when lying face up) or their ankles (when lying face down), and some women will be more comfortable with a pillow underneath their hips. The above suggestions don't have to be followed precisely - the point is to create a very warm, and welcoming atmosphere which will be pleasant to you and your partner. Feel free to add or remove objects to improve the atmosphere. Before performing the massage make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are clipped.